I never wanted to have kids.
At least that’s what I told myself throughout my twenties.
Anyone who has know me over the past 10 years can attest to my adamant declarations of my #nokid policy.
I would use excuses like;
“Well I have too much I want to accomplish.”
“There’s too many places left to travel.”
“There’s no way I could do X with a kid in tow!”
“I’ll just be a dog-dad.”
Sorry Nick, not even close buddy.
In reality I was making excuses to put off doing the hard work. I wasn’t ready to stare at the man in the mirror and ask him to change his ways. I wasn’t ready to take the steps to challenge myself, put my ego in check and work towards becoming the man I knew I could be.
I also may have not had the life experiences that would present the challenges and opportunities to learn and grow. Growth cannot happen without making a conscious effort to change habits and behaviors that no longer serve you.
Change is hard. Creating new habits is hard. Rewiring your brain is hard. But it’s not impossible.
We can get comfortable with our routines but change cannot happen without getting a little uncomfortable.
Fast forward to present day. Hudson’s arrival is in a few short weeks and there is nothing but joy, peace and clarity.
It took years of lessons, failures, mistakes, acceptance, stumbling, picking up the pieces and staying focused to get to where I am today.
If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself, and then make a change.